If you or a loved one can not be challenged without throwing insult or blaming the other person then, please get help.
If you have ever told a loved one their genuine feelings are bullshit. If you have ever said to a loved one their facebook post for your birthday was fake, if you have ever gaslit someone this bad, please get some help.
If you or a loved one has ever yelled at another human for doing something because it was wrong in your head or they didn’t do something you were thinking i.e. they didn’t read your mind, please get help.
If you or a loved one assigns negative intent AT ANY TIME TO ANYONE, please get help.
If you or a loved one finds that you get your way by ignoring other people, if you find that’s a good way to show someone you don’t care about them, please get some help.
If someone has ever told you or a loved one that you scare the shit out of them, please get some help.
If you ever accused a loved one of cheating. When in fact it was you that was cheating. Do whatever you want.
If you or a loved one have ever told a child (your child) they hurt your feelings when they were upset with you, if you made that claim as if the child’s feelings were less important than yours, please get some help.
If you have ever told a loved one that prayed with the child you have together that they forced the child to pray when the child was upset, please, I’m begging you, please see what you’re doing.
If you have ever disappeared in the middle of the night, turned off your phone, didn’t tell anyone that you needed time alone, and when you came back, you find your loved ones scared to death, if you have done this and afterwards, blamed the loved one, said they did the same things to you, if you were also backed up by your family in this matter, if your family yelled at your loved one because of something they made up in their head, if this at all sounds familiar to you, then PLEASE GET SOME GD HELP! We need you to be better. You’re not your best. You’re not as good as you put out into the real world. You don’t do everything. You’re a good person. You need help.
If you have ever been hit because you forgot something. A small detail. A big detail. Doesn’t matter. If you have been hit in anger by someone you love. Please consider me your ally.
This is my last attempt at helping this person understand what they are doing. Their wake is really big, but they act small and petty behind closed doors. The doors need to be opened. Please don’t call me and tell me to stop. I’ll stop. After this. Public image is all I have at this point to help them understand. If this isn’t eye opening. I give up and will continue try to work with this person. I’ll work with them no matter what. I’ll figure out how to be. I’m not the bigger person. I’m just someone trying to do what’s right. I don’t know what’s right anymore.
if you say, I was the abuser. This is what you experienced. You experienced my reaction after years of abuse. You experienced me finally saying “QUIT POKING ME!” after you poked me for years.
I’m so sick of banging up against principle and fighting for change in myself and in those that affect me and who I love more than anything. If the offender changes. Great! If they remain blind. I’ll deal. But I can’t keep living like this. Being insulted and disrespected. While at the same time being demanded to respect them and being belittled when I speak up. This isn’t how “Treat others the way you’d like to be treated” works. This is protecting. Myself. And who I love more than anything. I’ve tried talking. I’ve tried the courts. This is all I have left. You are the block. Human to whom this is addressed. You are a good person. An excellent person. But you’ve made it your goal to take and take from me and those I love. You take emotional wellbeing. You take confidence. You take love and return little. This is not hate. This is love for whoever needs it.
