“Let people be wrong about you” is an idea that suggests allowing others to have their own opinions and perceptions about you, and not wasting energy trying to change them. It can be easier said than done, but it can lead to greater humility and respect for others.
Here are some benefits of letting people be wrong about you:
- Humility It’s important to remember that our value isn’t based on how right we are in any given situation.
- Respect You can model modesty and openness, which can be more impactful than trying to prove people wrong.
- Peace of mind You can free up energy that was previously spent trying to get others to know you.
I’ve been being assigned bad intent for a while now. It’s getting to be a pattern. An clear and awful pattern.
I was assigned bad intent in my marriage. I forgot to bring some stuff home. She fought me in the driveway and said the most vile things to me. Chased me away from the house as I tried to get away from her. Called her parents over like I was beating her. I wasn’t. I was just trying to get away, but apparently I was leaving her alone with the children and that was the most cruel and unimaginable thing a man could do. Indifferent Meh. She left me alone with them. She was alone with them all the time, but this time, this was the one time that I couldn’t leave her alone. I don’t get this. Later, she told me in the most sweet voice, “if you ever get angry with me, please don’t leave.” Well, sweetheart, you don’t have the ability to control my response to you. I will do what I have to do to protect myself. Getting away from you was the most logical thing to do when I’m attacked. If I stayed, she would have followed me where ever went in the house. Reality doesn’t matter to the attacker.
I cleaned the house, but I left the cleaning supplies in an unobstructed location in order to show off that I’m cleaning. I wasn’t leaving them on the stairs to carry up the stairs when I went to clean in that location. This was reality. Reality doesn’t matter to someone that wants devalue effort.
My daughter was upset that I left when mommy and daddy got in a fight in the driveway. Mommy was raging. She called me. I asked her if a prayer would help her feel better. She said yes. But this was twisted into I forced my daughter to pray. Not that I wanted to comfort my daughter in her time of trouble the best I knew how by turning to the one entity that comforts the entire universe. The creator. God. Reality doesn’t matter to the manipulative.
Some time later. Met a nice lady. Had a month of nice caring times together. I came home from seeing her 3 hours away. Was exhausted. Fell asleep. Didn’t answer her for a few hours. I was the most uncaring and narcissistic man on the planet. All kinds of bad things were assigned to me then. I didn’t see her. I didn’t care for her. I was sounding different. I was evil and just an awful person. Reality doesn’t matter to the person avoiding accountability.
Had a nice talk with an old friend all night long. She was having difficulties. We playfully fought back and forth. We called each other names and laughed. We stayed up all night. I slept 2 hours though. She didn’t sleep and she drank all night. I didn’t trust her judgement and did something that she felt I went behind her back. I was then harangued by many women and ignored and not given any chance to defend myself. I could be being run down by them for weeks or months now or I could be being ignored and not considered in the least. Nevertheless, doesn’t matter. I’m going to let that go and let them be wrong. I’m not in charge of someone else’s opinion of me. I did what I thought was right. I wasn’t weak. I was strong. You want to call me weak when I’m strong. That’s a you problem. Not a me problem. Reality doesn’t matter to those that want to do what they want to do and not be bothered by others.
I just want to protect my peace. I’ll do that. I’ll write about this and move on. I’ll talk to people that don’t do this. That don’t assign bad intent for what ever motive they want to destroy. This is what they do. People that assign bad intent have the least powerful superpower ever. They think they can read minds and know motives, but they just feel what they’re feeling inside themselves. It’s a form of projection. And it’s evil. It’s greed and selfishness on a small scale.
I hope I never do this to anyone. If I do, I hope I’m self aware enough to look inside me for my motives in doing it. Just be authentic. If someone is wrong about you, let them be wrong. It’s not my responsibility to make sure everyone knows who I am. I only want to share myself with those that want to know me and these people don’t want to know me. They want the world to be like them. Everyone has the same thoughts as them and opinions and they are the ones that are always right. It’s greed and selfishness on a large scale.